"My business is not to remake myself, but to make the ABSOLUTE BEST of what God has made" -Robert Browning (emphasis mine)
So this will be series of the 7 commandments he discusses in his book. I will be discussing each point and supplement it with my experiences in child raising. I am so far from perfect in raising my kids. Oftentimes I would really just sigh in frustration. Parenting is one tough job, and it can go on for a lifetime. It is not to be taken lightly, as we are called to be stewards to enable lives discover their own potentials, callings, strengths-- and help them to become the best persons they are designed to be.
So here is Commandment #1: RESPECT THAT YOUR CHILD IS UNIQUE AND COMPLETE PERSON FROM BIRTH.
Children are not made with cookie cutters. We could not choose their genetic make up, personalities and temperaments. In my case with Ria and Roi, I am faced with so many challenges. For one, they seem to be so different from each other. Both have strong personalities, but Ria is more quiet and withrawn. Roi on the other hand is very extroverted. He would shake strangers' hands and introduce himself. He is just 5!
Since Roi is a very people person, it is just natural that people would look for him and notice whenever he is not around. Many times I would catch Ria feeling like she is being left out. Since we always see Roi's work (because he brags about it all the time), Ria would often feel unappreciated.
I don't want Ria to be hampered and limited because she feels jealous of his younger brother. I want her to soar and discover the potentials she possesses. She has a very unique gift with music. She listens to music and she almost automatically knows what key it is being played. She plays the violin and recorder and would soon learn how to play the piano. She has a deep sense of spirituality. She reads her Bible, prays on her own and asks deep questions about God and spiritual things.
Roi is the complete opposite. All he could think about are aliens, space ships and scorpions that bite the dragon to death. He would day dream about being a knight in shining armor.
It would be wrong to compare their spirituality, abilities and the empasize on the things that they cannot do. It would be right to focus on their strengths. Both kids came to this world with a pair of wings. But they came in different sizes and shapes. It is our job to look into those wings, harness and strengthen them so that our kids can use them and in time, soar.