Preparing Your Kids for Your Big Move

Time and again we are faced with choices, and moving out to another city or country is one of them. Moving could often be thought of as fun, but in reality, is not as fun or as easy as it sounds.  Think of the seemingly endless packing and unpacking, leaving many good memories and friends behind, and settling into an unfamiliar place.

Oftentimes, it is harder on the kids than on the adults.  Kids under 8, especially, could be very attached to friends, neighbors, school, anything that’s familiar. So going into unfamiliar grounds could be stressful for them.

Here are some helpful tips for parents who wish to prepare their kids for their big move:

Breaking the News:  When and How

Be straightforward, and keep it simple.  The more transparent you are with the kids, the less they would worry.  Children have a way of knowing that there are things that you are keeping from them so it’s important to give them details.  Also, be prepared of the possible questions that your children would ask.  It is not expected that you will be able to answer all of them, but assure them that the move is for the better and everything will work out just fine as soon as you’ve moved out.

 

Emotions: How to Handle them

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It would be expected that kids could be emotional.  Adults can be too, but because we see the bigger picture, we tend to be comforted at the thought that the move will be for everybody’s benefit.  But most kids just see the now.  Some might feel betrayed, get depressed or feel deprived of the good life they are enjoying in their present home.  Given a choice, they would not want to move out– so some would really ask, “how could you do this to me?” or “how could you take away this life from me?”  Of course some kids could not ask that right in their parents’ faces, but those questions could race through their heads.

 

 

Packing Up:  What to Leave Behind and What to Bring?

This could be a struggle because the kids could be so attached to many things: toys, old books, sheets, their beds, etc.  That is understandable so as a parent, make sure you bring something that’s familiar.  Maybe a favorite toy or their favorite sheets.  That would make the transition so much easier.

For now we are also in the middle of packing up for our big move back to the Philippines in a month.  Starting tomorrow night, we will not be sleeping on our bed because by tomorrow morning, the couple who have bought our things will be needing them already.  Our dining table and chairs will have to go too, along with our book shelves and wardrobes.  Writing this post does not make me an expert in preparing our kids for this move.  In fact, I find it so hard and thought, there must be other parents out there who’d be needing these thoughts as they, like us, transition into another place.

 

Every Bride’s Dream

There’s always something different about a bride-to-be.  Although wedding preparations could be tiring, she still glows and it would not be difficult to tell how excited she is for her big day.  While it would be easy and convenient to just hire wedding planners who are more than willing to do the dirty job, there is nothing like being a hands-on bride!  After all, it is not everyday that one walks down the aisle in a wedding gown, right?

Like they always say,  a wedding day is not only a union of two hearts but a coming together of families and special friends and therefore needs detailed and careful planning.  It should be special like no other day.

As a bride (I have been a bride myself more than 12 years ago), choosing the best wedding dress is the most exciting and most taxing part of the preparation.  Exciting in the sense that finally, you would finally walk down the aisle and be united with the man you love for the rest of your life.  Exciting because everybody’s eyes will be on you– now I have to agree that  a bride is, and should be the star on her wedding day!   Taxing, because coming up with the final design takes so much time.   It would be extremely difficult to choose especially with the so many choices available online and in magazines.  On top of that, you also have to consider your friends’ or family’s opinions. While the design would matter a lot, it is still important that brides be comfortable in what they wear on their wedding day.

 

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A bride would surely look stunning in this simple yet elegant design

 

Aside from the bride, the bridesmaids need to look great as well.

 

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Bridesmaids could have the choice to either wear long, elegant gowns or opt to look more casual in shorter dresses, depending of course, with the theme and venue of the wedding.

Technology definitely has given brides  more wedding dress options to choose from these days. Not only will they be able to find great designs, they can also just order the dress of their choice online– gowns that are handcrafted to make them the most beautiful , the most elegant and the most stunning brides on their wedding day.

It is, after all, every bride’s dream, isn’t it?

 

 

Great Learning Games for Kids

With modern technology, it is not surprising that kids could become so techie and wired as early as three years old.  While this is is supposed to be a good thing, I know of many parents who have this as a reason to worry, especially when kids could become so preoccupied with their online games, videos and social networking sites that they forget to connect with other people in their own homes.

I am not saying that playing online games or spending time in the internet could be bad for the kids– our own kids play games in the computer, too but always, we see to it that we monitor and limit their time.  There are other games that could that could be very beneficial to their learning.  What’s great about these games is that they could be played by many family members so it  could serve as a great bonding time, too.

So here are a few suggestion of games that could be great for your child’s learning:

1.  Puzzles

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3D puzzle of the Empire State Building in New York

 

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300-pc puzzle the kids completed

For toddlers, puzzles aid in the development of cognitive and psychomotor development.  It is also great for development of the eye-hand coordination skills.  Studies show that solving tiny pieces of puzzle helps kids develop their problem-solving ability.  It teaches them to persevere and not to give up.  Of course, after every puzzle is solved, a child usually feels good about himself– in other words, solving a puzzle helps boost a child’s self-esteem.

Puzzles  are not only for children.  It  is also beneficial for adults.  Instead of spending too much time watching TV or online, one could challenge himself to finish a 1,000-piece puzzle!  Elderly people who are still fond of puzzles, according to studies, are found out to have better memory skills.

2.  Rubik’s Cube

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Rubik’s cube is also another kind of puzzle that has become so popular in the 80’s.  Just as exercising helps develop our physical bodies, playing games like the Rubik’s cube exercises our brain cells.  This is good for elementary level kids and for adults of all ages, too.   In a  five-year study involving more than 400 participants over 75 years of age, it was found that activities that involve thought, such as reading, writing and board games, were more likely to ward off dementia.

 

3.  Board Games

 

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Our family’s collection of board games

Board games are excellent for family time.  It is a good way to bond and teach kids to use their initiative, to think on their own and to be handle defeat.  It also teaches them how to follow rules and learn many of life’s important lessons the fun way.  For older kids, chess could be an excellent way to teach kids about focus, to skillfully strategize and determination.

 4.  Lego

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Roi’s Lego set

Lego develops a child’s spatial perception, challenges his creativity and ingenuity.  The more LEGO pieces and the more diverse their shapes, the better!  A child could never go wrong with LEGO because he can create anything he/she wants with it!  LEGO helps a child’s patience and gives him a sense of accomplishment once his/ her creation is done.

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…celebrating the joys of family life!