Time and again we are faced with choices, and moving out to another city or country is one of them. Moving could often be thought of as fun, but in reality, is not as fun or as easy as it sounds. Think of the seemingly endless packing and unpacking, leaving many good memories and friends behind, and settling into an unfamiliar place.
Oftentimes, it is harder on the kids than on the adults. Kids under 8, especially, could be very attached to friends, neighbors, school, anything that’s familiar. So going into unfamiliar grounds could be stressful for them.
Here are some helpful tips for parents who wish to prepare their kids for their big move:
Breaking the News: When and How
Be straightforward, and keep it simple. The more transparent you are with the kids, the less they would worry. Children have a way of knowing that there are things that you are keeping from them so it’s important to give them details. Also, be prepared of the possible questions that your children would ask. It is not expected that you will be able to answer all of them, but assure them that the move is for the better and everything will work out just fine as soon as you’ve moved out.
Emotions: How to Handle them
It would be expected that kids could be emotional. Adults can be too, but because we see the bigger picture, we tend to be comforted at the thought that the move will be for everybody’s benefit. But most kids just see the now. Some might feel betrayed, get depressed or feel deprived of the good life they are enjoying in their present home. Given a choice, they would not want to move out– so some would really ask, “how could you do this to me?” or “how could you take away this life from me?” Of course some kids could not ask that right in their parents’ faces, but those questions could race through their heads.
Packing Up: What to Leave Behind and What to Bring?
This could be a struggle because the kids could be so attached to many things: toys, old books, sheets, their beds, etc. That is understandable so as a parent, make sure you bring something that’s familiar. Maybe a favorite toy or their favorite sheets. That would make the transition so much easier.
For now we are also in the middle of packing up for our big move back to the Philippines in a month. Starting tomorrow night, we will not be sleeping on our bed because by tomorrow morning, the couple who have bought our things will be needing them already. Our dining table and chairs will have to go too, along with our book shelves and wardrobes. Writing this post does not make me an expert in preparing our kids for this move. In fact, I find it so hard and thought, there must be other parents out there who’d be needing these thoughts as they, like us, transition into another place.